Musically Inclined



When it comes to music, I would say I am actually musically declined, if that is even a phrase. It just doesn’t appeal to me like it does to others. Not saying I don’t jam out every now and again, but there isn’t a band or song that I obsess over. Not like my friends, who OBSESS over bands like Widespread Panic and Lady Gaga. Widespread and Gaga, in one sentence. Hilarious!


Recently, I found myself driving all the way to work without even turning on the radio. It’s a 45 minute drive. Not good. I want Ava to love music and have been trying to turn on music as much as possible when she is around. She is so peaceful when I play children’s music while driving in the car. Our next step is to purchase her some instruments. She looks like a flute player to me. 

It’s funny that I have been thinking a lot about Ava and music lately, and then the below article landed in my inbox. It’s written by two ladies from Primrose Schools who found my blog on Top Baby Blogs and offered for me to use this piece on Blairadise. Enjoy.


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Musically Inclined

A child’s sensesare stimulated to the fullest when he or she grows up listening to music,singing songs, and dancing. Their early development is positively impactedthrough this exposure to music. As it works to strengthen the neurologicalpathways between brain cells it also provides a unique learning experience. Anearly introduction to music is crucial for jump-starting childhood learningprocesses whether it be in day care,or homeschool, or even before the education process begins.


Incorporatingmusic into early childhood education strengthens cognitive abilities likememory and spatial reasoning skills. More over, research has proven thatcreating an educational environment that engages the five senses, withparticular attention to hearing can positively affect a child’s mind andphysical development. The Nemours Foundation, a nongovernmental organizationdedicated to the health of children, produced a report concluding that childrenwho actively listen to, play, or perform music related activities excel in mathand reading, have higher self-esteem, are more focused, and are more likely toplay and explore with their peers. 

Music makes thegreatest educational and neurological impact on children when they activelyexperience it. Active listening can be defined as clapping, singing, tapping,or keeping the beat to music. Further more allowing a child to create his or her own music will proveto be priceless. Passive music participation (listening to music) is alsobeneficial to a child but does not work to engage and develop neurologicalpathways as deeply. If you would like your child to experience the benefits ofmusic on early childhood education and development, begin simply.

1. Play music for your child then ask he or she todistinguish the different instruments present in the music. This game works tosharpen your child’s divided, shifted, focused, and sustained attention. Eachtype of attention is crucial to the healthy development and functioning of yourchild. Divided attention can be defined as performing two or more tasks atonce. Shifted attention is moving back and forth between multiple tasks withoutforgetting the rules and instructions particular to each task. Focusedattention is concentrating on one task. Sustained attention is concentrating onone specific task for a long period of time.

2. Teach your child basic nursery rhymes and songs. The ItsyBitsy Spider, This Little Piggy Went to Market, and The Wheels on The Bus arenursery rhymes that have accompanying hand motions. The synthesis of music andmovement enhances a child’s memory by linking the memorization of words withhand motions. This method also works to strengthen a child’s ability to do morethan one thing at a time.

3. An upset child can be comforted by music. Playing certaintypes of music for a sad or angry child provides stability and repetition asthe child learns to cope with new feelings and emotions.

4. Use any available opportunity to share music with yourchild. Play music when riding in the car or before bedtime! Researchers saythat tones and notes characteristic of jazz and classical musicwork best to stimulate neurological pathways.

The benefits ofplaying music and encouraging participation in making music can be huge. Thedevelopmental, emotional, and educational affects yielded from exposing yourchild to and encouraging your child toward a musical life are invaluable.

Co-written by Emily Patterson and Kathleen Thomas

Emily and Kathleen areCommunications Coordinators for the Atlanta daycare facility, a member of the AdvancED® accredited family of PrimroseSchools (located in 16 states throughout the U.S.) and part of the network of daycare preschools delivering progressive, early childhood, Balanced Learning®curriculum.

Toodaloo!

Blair

Day Dreaming

I spend a lot of my time day dreaming, a trait I picked up from my older sister Amanda. She is the Grande Dame of day dreaming. I love listening to her day dreams and hope, for all of our sake, that one day, at least one of hers will come true.

Lately I’ve been dreaming about moving back to America. Dreams about Sundays at my grandmothers house, eating fresh veggies from the garden, fried chicken and homemade biscuits, maybe even some gravy. Chatting about the good old days, when the house was filled with people, young and old and laughter could be heard all around. When there was someone pounding away at the piano and horns honking as my grandfather’s milk trucks passed by the house. The days when the whole family sat sipping sweet tea on the back porch.

I dream about a little house in Charlotte. Something with hardwood floors and a Harris Teeter close by. Eating sushi with Bailey, after watching her play volleyball. Of play dates with old friends and gossiping over wine with Stacy. Weekend trips to the beach. Many dreams about our old house on Lake Wateree. Shopping trips with Natalie. Day dreams of Ava as a high school cheerleader and later attending Duke. Honestly, I don’t know why Duke, but Duke it is. They don’t have cheerleaders here.

Johan and I have talked about moving to America. It’s definitely a possibility for us. Then we have a weekend like this one and I can’t imagine ever leaving this place. A weekend full of beautiful weather and wonderful friends. Great food and lots of laughter. I love Pretoria and the home we’ve built here. I love the friends I’ve made here and the family we have close by. I love the life we’ve built here. But, there is no denying that I miss America and the life we could have there. 

My favorite day dream to dream, is where both my lives are combined. All my friends and family in one place. Somewhere near the sea, with a Target close by…

I cut my hair this weekend!! It feels so weird. Johan likes it, I am still on the fence. Ava still recognizes me and that is all that matters. I was going for Drew Barrymore in Going the Distance hair.

Before

After

The Hazel Food Market is the place to be in Pretoria on Saturday mornings. The yummiest food and greatest place to people watch. Grannies dressed better than you.

My sweetheart

 

The best pork dumplings ever! I get them every time,

Waited in line almost 10 minutes for that cappuccino. Yes, it was well worth the wait!

The Man

Day dreaming about sitting at that fancy table and people watching while drinking champagne.

Me and the birthday girl

Ava had her first taste of food this weekend! Steamed sweet potato with breast milk. Here’s what she thought about it…

A pictures worth a thousand words!

Keep it real.

B

Scratch that off the "Mommy Fail" list

It’s taken me five months to come to the realization that no matter how often I trim Ava’s nails or how short, she will inevitably scratch her face. And scratch it a lot. This week she has a scratch coming out of the corner of her eye. How she didn’t cause serious damage to her eye ball, I have no idea. But, I am officially taking face scratching off of the “Mommy Fail” list, as there is nothing I can do to prevent her from said bodily harm.

Yes, I said five months. Ava turns five months tomorrow! I can’t believe how fast time has flown by. Last year at this time, the notion of being pregnant was only starting to sink in. My diet had changed to 95% crackers and 5% fruit. I could not stomach the idea of any meat and yearned only for sushi. And American fast food, of course. During my pregnancy I gained a total of 23 kgs, which is 50.7 lbs. Way over the recommended limit. I cannot imagine how fat I would have been if we lived in the US during my pregnancy. I’ve got 6 more kgs, 13.22 lbs to loose before I am back to my normal weight. With only two months until bathing suit season…

Yesterday my Aunt hosted a baby shower for my brother and his girlfriend, who is due in August. Missing special moments like these really make me miss home. But if we lived in America then we would have missed Johan’s nephew’s 1st birthday party this morning. Unfortunately, we will always be in a lose, lose situation.

Sometimes I day dream that Johan is American and his family all live in Charlotte. Or that I am South African and my grandmothers are only a few hours away. But then I guess we wouldn’t be the people we are. And maybe those people wouldn’t have fallen in love like we have. Life is all about tough choices and our toughest choice is being away from the ones we love. Right now it is mine and maybe one day, it’s his.

We got Ava’s mid-term report on Friday. The additional comments read:

Ava is ‘n baie oulike dogtertjie. Sy het gou aangepas en geniet die skool. Sy is ‘n plesier in die klas.

I know enough Afrikaans to understand what it says, but for those of you who don’t, Google’s translation is:

Ava is a very cute girl. She quickly adjusted and enjoys school. She is a joy in class.

So Google’s translation isn’t so great. Here is mine:

Ava is the cutest little girl in class. She has adapted well and is a pleasure to have in class.

Keep makin’ Mommy proud little one, so I can keep my “Mommy Fail” list short!

Here are some photos from the weekend:

The Birthday Boy and his Mommy

 Sweetie Pies, some chocolate log thingys, strawberries and white chocolate! Yum.

Again, Ava drank way too much and was the first to pass out at the party…

5 Months old! Yay for Ava! She is laying on top of one of my baby blankets, almost 29 years old…

Modeling is hard work, Mom…

 My mom and sister, along with her girls are coming to visit Ava and I next weekend. The Skipper will be out of town for work, so it is perfect timing. And we will get to celebrate Amanda’s 32nd birthday!! Man we are getting old! Well, she is.

Be on the look out for more pictures of beautiful babies coming next week!

-Blair

Selfish

I realized today, while reading a friend’s blog post about her struggle to fall pregnant, just how selfish and ungrateful I am.

My Mother’s Day was spent sulking because Johan didn’t get me flowers or a card. Because he gave me a gift two weeks early and not on the day. I had to do the dishes while he played games. I actually thought how I would love for this one day, not to be a mother and be able to do what I wanted all day long without worrying about feeding and changing diapers. Soothing cries or sterilizing bottles. Last week was a stressful week for me, emotionally and physically and I was looking forward to this one day to just relax and be spoiled. How pathetically selfish.

Last June, when Johan and I found out I was pregnant it was a huge shock. We weren’t trying, but we weren’t being overly careful either. And we definitely didn’t think it would happen so soon. We had been married for only 6 months, I had just started a new job and we had plane tickets for America. A pregnancy was not a part of those plans. 

After we heard the heart beat our life changed. I changed. There was a life growing inside me. Things that were once important, were now obsolete. Celebrity gossip blogs were replaced with parenting blogs. Daydreaming online at JCrew was replaced with Buy buy baby. I prayed to God throughout the day, opposed to just in the morning and night. I prayed for him to please watch over this tiny being growing inside me and to keep her daddy safe so that she will know and love him as I do. 
Now that Ava is here, I continue to pray throughout the day, but mainly just thanking God for everything we have. For how perfect she is. The love Johan and I share. For the love Johan has for our daughter. Our cozy home. Our safety in this hectic world. Our family’s safety and well being. For our parents and what amazing role models they are for us.

Before I fell pregnant, I don’t think I realized how many people actually struggle to conceive and how lucky I was to have fallen pregnant so easily. I know a few family members and a couple friends, but I don’t think I really understood the severity of their struggle. The pain they experienced while waiting for that double line or during a miscarriage. Now I wish I would have been more supportive and can only hope I am supportive enough to those still struggling. 

I am extremely disappointed in myself because I truly am grateful for everything God has blessed me with. Words cannot describe how I feel about Ava and about being a mother. Feeling her grow inside me and now watching her grow before my eyes is the most amazing thing I have experienced. I cry when she’s grown out of her clothes. I tear up when Johan leaves to take her to school.  I love watching her sleep, yet fight the urge to wake her up to see her smile. It is still very tough for me to spend the days apart from her. Ava has made my life complete and never again will I take her for granted. She is the best gift I could have ever asked for.